The following is a list to help you recognize if you or someone you love is in an unhealthy and/or

dangerous relationship. 

Verbal Abuse: Name calling, blaming, yelling, making humiliating remarks.


Pressure Tactics: Rushing you to make decisions through “Guilt Trips”, threatening to withhold money,

manipulating the children.


Abusing Authority: Always claiming to be right, making decisions for you.


Disrespect: Interrupting, changing the subject, twisting your words, putting you down in front of other

people.


Abusing Trust: Lying, withholding information, cheating on you, and being overly jealous.


Breaking Promises: not following through on agreements, refusing to help with the children and

housework.


Emotional Withholding: Not expressing feelings, not giving support, attention or compliments.


Minimizing, Denying and Blaming: Making light of behavior, saying abuse didn’t happen, shifting

responsibility for the abuse.


Economic Control: Not letting you work, refusing to give you or take your money, taking your car keys.


Self-Destructive Behavior: Abusing alcohol or drugs, threatening suicide or other forms of self harm.


Isolation: Making it difficult for you to see friends and family, monitoring your phone calls, telling you

where you can and can not go.


Harassment, Stalking: Making uninvited visits or calls, follows you, checks up on you, and embarrasses

you in public.


Intimidation: Making angry or threatening gestures, use of physical size, driving reckless.


Destruction: Destroying your possessions, punching walls, throwing things.


Threats: Making and or carrying out threats to hurt you or others.


Sexual Violence: Degrading treatment, using force, threats, or coercion to obtain sex or

perform sex acts.


Physical Violence: Being violent to your children, pets, or others. Slapping, punching,

grabbing, pushing, kicking, biting and burning, ect.


Weapons: Use of weapons, keeping weapons around to frighten you.