What is Abuse?

 


Before, During and After a Violent Incident:


Before a violent incident:

  • Create a safety plan including an escape route.
  • Keep emergency money and extra clothes for yourself and your children in a safe place or with someone you trust. Include a few toys and favorite things for the children.
  • Make a list of the things you need to take with you (birth/medical records, marriage license, checkbooks, credit cards, medications). If possible, keep these items together in a place that is easily reached in an emergency.
  • Have phone numbers for hospitals and emergency shelters nearby.
  • Keep phone numbers for support groups. (Gathering information and gaining support are important steps in making crucial decisions.)
  • If you feel you may be in immediate danger, dial the police number and hang up before it rings so that the redial button will automatically call the police if you need them quickly.


During a violent incident:

  • Move away from an area in which you can be trapped (i.e. a place that has no doors, windows, or phone).
  • Leave a room that has potential weapons in it, such as the kitchen.
  • Use your own judgment and instincts. Work with the threatening situation in the best way you can think of to calm the person down. In the midst of a violent incident, your most important job is keeping yourself, and your children, safe.


After an violent incident:

  • If the abuser is still in the house, get out.
  • Call the police as soon as possible. They will respond and stay with you until you are safe or in a safe place.
  • Get medical attention; you may be injured more seriously than you realize. Go to a hospital emergency room or your private doctor for treatment. Always ask for a copy of the medical record.
  • Have pictures taken of your injuries and bruises at the hospital or police department.


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